If anybody ever fell into the hole of "my life sucks" let me remind you......PERSPECTIVE is very differenrt then CONTROL! Loss of Control IS normal! It's how short the duration of this loss is that reminds you that you actually ARE IN control.
Let me give you an example. I started to get the feeling that my life was slowly unraveling and I was losing control every day. I turned to smoking because that would give me 5 minutes every few hours to have 5 minutes to "regroup" and get back into control. That action and justification as to why I needed to smoke was actually my perfective of gaining control. In reality, I was loosing more and more control with every puff. Why? My actions of smoking were delaying me getting back the control I lost. I was feeding the source of loss of control (sort of like a magnet of misery attracts misery). I was miserable so I turned to a miserable action feeding the pain, therefore going deeper and deeper out of control.
B-slap of the day......."Is what you ARE doing really exactly what YOU SHOULD BE doing" to gain control? My answer once I took a moment to b-slap myself, the answer was NO. What I should have been doing is sending out more resumes, cutting up veggies to eat healthier and guilt-free, spending more quality time with my kids. Instead I ran away from all of the things that felt good only to add more stress, feel more guilt and be more unhealthy. One little change in life, had a rippling negative impact. Doesn't it make sense that one little change in life, should have a POSITIVE rippling effect too?
GAME ON FOLKS!!!! Control is back and things are looking good!!!! YEE-HAW!!
Till next time....
Your Daily B-slap Girl
